Three Reasons Why Egg Freezing Can Improve Your Dating Life
We hear about how women freeze their eggs to pursue their careers. But, how can egg freezing save you time, money, and loads of headaches in dating?
Freezing your eggs can create less pressure to settle down quickly into marriage or a relationship.
You can spend more time focusing on developing your compatibility with your partner, instead of worrying about how fast your “biological clock is ticking”.
No more pressure from parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, or cousins twice-removed about when you are going to "settle down and marry them".
There’s no doubt that now, more than ever, women are turning towards higher, more focused levels of reproductive planning and taking their time in making careful, thoughtful decisions to have children. With the increased popularity of egg-freezing, women have so many more options to really decide if and when motherhood is right for them.
Highlighted in a piece by the New York Times, young adult millennial women in the workforce — roughly between ages 18 to 35 — are taking larger strides and careful steps to plan out their futures for their careers and family. If we, as women, are preparing for our family futures more meticulously through reproductive planning measures, like egg freezing and in-vitro fertilization (IVF), then how does this affect our dating lives? Here are five reasons why egg freezing can improve your dating life.
Freezing your eggs can create less pressure to settle down into any ol' marriage or a relationship
Many women often feel the pressure and weight that exists in their intimate relationships if they want or desire to have children someday. An article by Huff Post details the freedom that some women felt egg freezing provided their relationships and dating life. One woman said that when she froze her eggs, she “felt liberated from the oppression of the ticking time bomb that is fertility.” Six months later, she ended up meeting the person she knew she wanted to marry.
Keep in mind that not every woman’s narrative unravels in the same manner. On her 37th birthday, Actor and comedian Molly Hawkey froze her eggs and started Spermcast, a podcast she piloted in 2018 to help her find the right sperm donor so she can have a baby. She details that this decision really helped her let go of the stress of serious dating, describing that she was able to “chill out, have fun and be my authentic self for the first time in my life,” she said. “I no longer cared what men thought about me, and it was liberating.”
You and your partner can spend more time focusing on developing your compatibility
For all my ‘90s babies out there, Bobby V said it best: “Slow down, I just wanna get to know you”.
A study conducted by Science Daily found that most single women were more popularly freezing their eggs to avoid “panic parenting” or “entering into unwise relationships” just to have a child. A scary, cold, and hard fact reality of history, many women have entered into relationships out of fear of not being able to have a child that is genetically related to them. The pressure to hurry up and find a relationship and marry (or seriously commit) to somebody is very real. But, thanks to the increased amount of fertility counseling, wisdom, and reproductive procedures like egg freezing and IVF, we really can slow it all the way down and just get to know our partners for who they really are and how they handle, well… life.
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No more pressure from parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, or cousins twice-removed about when you are going to "settle down"
Gone are the days of pressure-filled conversations with family members on Christmas and Thanksgiving about when you plan to “settle down with someone nice and have kids”. These are always very generally awkward and uninvited conversations. No one, whether identifying as a woman or not, wants to be harangued about how much better their life could be if they would do X, Y, and Z. We’re egg freezing now, ladies.
So, even if Aunt Cheryl’s sly comment about how you should have married what’s-their-name when you had the chance wriggles its way within your earshot, past all the turkey, mac-and-cheese, collard greens, and the sweet potato pie that separates you from commenting under your breath about her recent divorce, you can sleep at night knowing that egg freezing and reproductive planning was the smart decision.Plus, you’re pretty sure what’s-their-name never actually flossed and you don’t need any of that genetic misfortune staking a claim in your child.
All in all, egg freezing can be a hell of a lifesaver when it comes to exploring the world of dating and finding a partner. If you’re going to commit to someone, you want to be sure that you commit to someone with whom you are compatible and share similar values, beliefs, and morals. Though egg freezing is not the only option out there plan your reproductive future or improve your dating odds, nor does it guarantee that you will have a baby once you do decide to freeze them, but we believe that it’s a pretty damn good one.